When life brings you uncomfortable situations, often times our emotions will override our otherwise better sense of judgment. Acting in a heightened emotional state takes away our control of the situation. Usually leading to an outcome less than desired. Today I will discuss the proper way to control your emotional state when life throws you one of its many curve balls.
- Identifying the challenge or situation
Sit down and write out exactly what you are struggling with. This is important because what we think we are struggling with may be a deeper issue entirely.
- Understanding how you view your circumstances determines the way you take action. Either out of positive motivating states or in a fear-driven negative motivating state.
No matter your current circumstances we all have experienced the challenges life brings our way. The question here is how do you view these situations? Do you view them as…
- An opportunity to learn, grow and succeed.
- Or… do you allow the negative situation to leave you defeated.
Whether you choose to look at this opportunity as either A or B, the situation can and will deviate drastically. If you choose to look at this challenge with a positive mindset you will be more inclined to find ways to create positive change. Learning and growing into a stronger person. Looking at your situation from a negative mindset will do just the opposite. You will find yourself creating more challenges and encountering added negativity. Essentially creating roadblocks in front of the original situation or challenge. So that leads us to step two.
- Ask yourself how both mindsets can change the situation, positively as well as negatively.
Asking these two questions will show you the contrast both mindsets create. Once you understand and view the value of a positive mindset you will be acting in a “positively motivated” action state. This is key to controlling your emotional state. On the flip side of that, viewing the situation from a negative ‘poor me’ viewpoint will toss you into the “negatively motivated” action state. When in this state you tend to allow fear and anxiety to control your thoughts and actions.
4.Finally making the choice to view the situation as a positive opportunity for growth.
When acting from a “positive motivating” state you feel in control of the situation. This allows the mind to create positive outcomes for your currently challenging situation. This is ultimately the key to controlling your emotional state.
- Attaching value to your mindset.
Attaching value is a key component to sticking with this positive change. If you can find why you must overcome this situation from an emotional standpoint as well as a goal standpoint, you will then attach enough value so you will not veer off course.
-Attach an emotional state to both the positive outcomes as well as the negative outcomes. This will allow you to find the positive motivators, launching you towards action steps.
6.Creating an action plan to achieve a positive outcome for your situation. Which will lead to growth and understanding. Progressing you forward.
This is pretty clear-cut. Sit down and grab some paper/laptop and evaluate your possible actions from your “positive motivating” mindset.
- Identify where this situation falls on your current goal/vision guild.
- Is this something you have been expecting to come up?
- Is this situation while trying part of the plan?
- Will overcoming this challenge assist my larger goals?
- If not… should I deviate from what got me in this situation?
- Being mindful (watching how) of how you respond and react to the situating now that you have chosen to act from these states.
- “Positive motivating” mindset.
- Have attached value to this mindset.
- Have taken action towards a positive outcome.
- Lastly, this is the time to evaluate how your actions have changed the situation.
Identifying what worked as well as what you can change moving forward to expedite future challenges.